13th Oct 2014
When client’s come to our office for a divorce, dissolution or family law issue, inevitably they will ask: “How can I make my divorce easier on myself, family, etc. While there are no simple answers that apply in every case, our office has come up with a list of things you can do that may help your case.
1. Understand that the term “fair” is the most overused term in family law. What is fair to you, may not be fair to your spouse, partner, etc. What you have offered may in fact be a “fair” deal, but you have to be open that your spouse may not agree. The old saying, agree to disagree, applies in divorce, and being open to negotiate issues will help settle your case.
2. Put the children first. I will do anything for my kids. Our lawyers hear this in every
case. The problem is, many times people don’t. As an example, before coming up with a parenting plan, ask yourself, would I want the schedule, I am asking my kids to follow? Would I want to change homes every other day? Throughout a divorce process you should ask yourself; How does this affect the children? Sometimes this means you do not maximize your potential outcome, but actually putting your children first will not only help you make your divorce or dissolution easier, it makes for a better future.
3. Tell the truth. This means more than in your words. It means in your actions. If you say you are going to do something, do it. It also means do not lie by omission. Do not make your spouse or spouse’s attorney pull the truth from you. This only leads to distrust and long drawn out cases.
4. Go to counseling. If you are having problems accepting the divorce, or you feeling anger and rage, go see a counselor. Attorneys are not counselors. In collaborative divorce, mental health professionals play an important role.
5. Think before you speak, text, call, email, facebook, etc. Ask yourself: How will what I am about to say be perceived by my spouse, my children, my family, the court, etc. Always think twice.
6. Every divorce, dissolution or family law issue is different. Trying to relate your issue to another case is impossible. An example would be: My co worker pays child support and he only pays X amount of money. This would only apply if you knew everything about your co worker, and his spouse’s financial situation. You have to settle your case based on your situation and what is important to you.
7. Keep friends and family out of your case as much as possible. Friends and family can be a great support system, but they can also hinder a case. Let them be there emotionally, but do not let them highjack your case.
For more information or to schedule a consultation with an experienced and reputable divorce attorney in Cincinnati, Ohio, Clermont or Warren County please contact the Law Office of Andrew G. Ice via andrewicelaw.com or 513.651.4227.